Take it easy
Men want their relationships to be easy going. Often, men
can set their relationships up for failure unknowingly. This is done by setting
the bar too high on dates by; committing too much time, or effort into planning
the date, or just trying too hard to impress his date. After a short period of
time, he becomes worn out and doesn’t feel like trying anymore.
To get past this obstacle that men can set for themselves,
keep your dates lower key. Every now and then, plan your dates around simpler
things; spending less money, and more time being together, talking, and just
focusing on each other. This will pull a man back to the fundamentals of a
relationship and keep him realistic and relaxed about it.
Not have to impress
her
Another trap to watch out for that men can set for
themselves is in spending too much money. In the beginning, an infatuated man
can spend money on his date without caring. Over time he may feel as if he has
to keep up this kind of spending habit to live up to her expectations, or may
not know how to bring the relationship down to a lower expectation.
To help a man out, let him know that fancy things every now
and then is great, but that he doesn’t need to keep up that kind of behavior to
impress you.
Low maintenance
Men want their relationships to be low maintenance. In the
areas of time he has to commit to a relationship, time spent together, amount
of listening he has to do, talking, and meeting her needs. In the beginning of
a relationship because men can be infatuated, he may have the temporary
strength to put up with these things, but as infatuation wears out, so does his
ability to deal with these issues. This is why men can sometimes break up with
a woman without her ever changing in her behavior.
What is helpful on this topic is a keen sensitivity and
understanding that men have different needs in terms of how much time they need
to themselves, and the amount they can give in a relationship. Men need to be
given time apart for themselves in order for him to rest up and come back to
the relationship feeling refreshed and ready to give.
Someone who fits in
well with his life
Regardless of which sex, people are going to match better
with someone who fits in with their lifestyle. In regards to fitting in with
his friends or your schedules, be sensitive not to disrupt each other’s
lifestyles too radically. People need change to happen slowly and over time. A
sudden large change to a man’s lifestyle can sometimes scare him away in the
long run.
Matching goals in
life
It’s only normal for people to have goals in life. Dreams
and hopes that we’ve held on to since childhood. In a relationship the problem
can sometimes be that people have different goals in life. Regarding; children,
marriage, careers, or places to live. Having different goals than him can
sometimes push him away.
The best way to handle this situation is overtime. Don’t
just drop all of your plans for life on him and expect him to accept them. Let
him know over time and subtly. Men need time to change and will run if they
feel they are being forced into anything.
Acceptance and
respect
Men need respect in a relationship in order to function,
more so than women do. Often, because of the different ways men and women
communicate in a relationship, men can believe that they aren’t being respected
even when they are. Communication can be a tricky game with the opposite sex,
trickier than people know.
Couples need to learn more about the opposite sex and how
they communicate, as men will process words and actions completely different
than women do. What can be helpful is some good advice from others who are more
experienced or from books or other resources. Many couples don`t make it
entirely on their own, many couples get insight from others who have already
made mistakes before.
Getting along in a relationship with a man can sometimes be confusing, frustrating, or more complicated that we ever imagined. In a relationship with men, there are different stages, and men can act differently at each stage. Learning more about men and the way they think and behave is vital in a successful relationship. Hopefully these tips have given you some insight into their world.
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